Does she really love me? Is his love for me true? That’s a good question to ask, but most times, we are so busy analyzing and judging the feeling of others for us that we forget to analyse or cross-check our own feelings and position. With love comes feelings, emotional outburst, raging hormones, deep hunger and longing, but all these alone aren’t enough to be called love. Feelings are transient, they can be easily triggered, that’s why today, you feel close to someone, all you want to do is have a fill of that person, but then another day comes, you no longer have those feelings, you may not even remember they are existing till something or someone triggers the memory. Then they show up, do something unusual and you are there thinking about him/her again…can such inconsistency be called love? But that’s the reality of human feelings.
It is so sad that divorce cases are alarmingly high, but it is more sad that most people going through tough time in their marriage today are not going through that cause their is no feelings, emotional connection and so on, but some fundamentals of love are missing, making relationship tough and unbearable.
So how do I know I am really in love? How do I know I am not wrong? Love, no matter the type have a pattern, a trend, a set of rules and principles, if I can call it that. To know if you are in love, someone may ask how often do you think about him/her, how often do you feel like talking to him, how comfortable are you around them, those kinda questions, but I don’t want to dwell on the surface of love, let’s go deep, connect with reality because while those things easily manifest when one is in love, you don’t need to be deeply in love to have those feelings, you just need to be attracted to someone, and admire them, and bingo!
Apology to non-Christians, but in these lovely verses of the Holy Bible, I found a true parameter, a true measurement of love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Carefully go through those lines, think about those qualities and compare that which you call ‘love’ with them, is your love quality-based or feeling-based?
I forgot to mention, this kinda test is for those that aren’t allergic to the truth, and the ones that are interested in building a true and lasting relationship.
Sorry to disappoint you, I don’t have a list of “7 ways to know” today, but I hope you’ll be able to pick one or two things from this piece. ~~~~ am out~~~Peace!!!